Do you wake up in the morning to the smell of fresh coffee because your loved one has gotten into the ritual of making you a cup before the day ahead? Do you find yourself buying that specific brand of butter because you know it’s their favourite? Do you both deliberately go to bed an hour before you want to sleep because cuddles! These are just a few examples of the rituals we find ourselves falling into when we’re in love and it’s glorious so to speak because love is fantastic.
In the platonic sense of the word, I also love to love. But the way I love my friends or the way I love my family is on a different wavelength to the love that I have to offer for my partner – he makes my heart skip a beat and makes kind gestures that nobody else can, he makes me laugh harder, worry more and root for him more than anyone else ever has and probably ever can, because that’s love.
I’m not blinded by my love though, I understand that there are flaws and bad things to our loved ones that only we can see as well, the same way that they see them in us, but the best part of being able to see their flaws, have things about them that we don’t enjoy as much or things that we find a little bit irritating, is that we love them anyway. Through the good times and the bad times, it’s always easy to love someone when it’s the feeling that trumps them all.
Which is why we probably fall into rituals and habits, which is why it’s so normal to cuddle up on the sofa or ask for a back rub, to which he’ll groan as if he doesn’t want to do it, but he does it anyway because he knows it’ll make you happy but that is what really makes you happy. It’s like when they show you something really gross or when you have worries and woes that you need to share with someone, and they are that someone. These are things that come to us naturally once we’re in love and have completely opened ourselves up to another person, one thing you’d never catch me doing is a little jig around the house or when I’m happy, or perhaps because I like a song I’ve put on in the background, but one thing my love will catch me doing, is that very jig – multiple times – in the same day.
When you look back at how you first started and how far you’ve come, where you met on Tinder, in a pub or on some location based dating site like a Hertfordshire Dating Site – or if you met through mutual friends because you were seeking love or maybe you met by chance at work, when you realise how you were back then, how it was flirty but you were still somewhat closed off, when it was all new and exciting but you weren’t quite sure where things were leading and then you look at each other now – isn’t that the best feeling?
There’s nothing quite like being close to someone, we’re only human and we all love having someone in our lives, each and every single one of us, whether we like to admit it or not, wants a special someone and so when we finally meet them and have all of the fun in the world with them, when things start to get serious maybe and you move in together or even if you’ve passed that line already and have started to try for a family, it becomes the new normal and even though this is the case, because it’s normal now, doesn’t mean that the magic has dwindled or that you don’t look forward to going to bed an hour earlier for those cuddles, or that the coffee tastes any worse or you don’t kiss each other hello and goodbye every day, it simply means that you’ve grown together and you’ve stepped into the next stage of your lives together.
And that is why love rituals are the best of all.