Relationships – a tricky one, right? One minute you’re swiping on Tinder, probably going for a few lame-o dates and a few semi-successful ones and the next minute you’ve settled down with the one picking each others socks up and sharing chores. Being in love with someone opens up a new realm of togetherness; you become closer with someone like never before and even your own mum doesn’t know some of the things about you that they do.
There’s been times where I’ve come home from work and Pedro is here already waiting – there was an instance where I came home and he’d ran me a bath because he knew I’d be tired and mostly likely, stink of my workplace. And for that, he’s a fab partner in pampering. But there are many things we start to do for each other when in love and some are wonderful and others are a little bit weird. But it’s all a part of being together. So let’s discuss some of the weird, some of the wonderful and some of the best things we start to do for each other when our relationships become serious.
1. Talk about who would cope the best if the other died
This is by far the weirdest conversation that you have, and also surprisingly, because it’s so morbid that I talk about it all the time with my sisters, something Pedro doesn’t like to discuss. We can talk about it briefly before I get the, “This isn’t something I wanna talk about,” line given to me, and whilst this is lovely within itself – why do we even want to talk about who would cope better? Very morbid, but it happens!
2. Designate a ‘SIDE’ of the bed
At the core of any daily ritual, we go to bed and get cosy. When you’re sharing a bed with someone though, you find that you’ve designated a side of the bed, which we then cement with what goes in which drawer in which side, and then before you know it you’ve been on the right side of the bed for a year when you only used to sleep on the left side of the bed.
3. Talk about the old days
This is something that I always do because I like to muse over how far we’ve come, where some people use Tinder, some people use location based dating websites such as a Manchester Dating Site we met on a chat site about ten years ago. I rarely bring up my childhood or the old days with my sisters or anyone else, but we always talk about how strange it is and how now, how unrealistic it is that we were a long distance couple for a year and a half and before then we were just internet buddies that met on a now, probably dead, chat site.
4. Designate a ‘SIDE’ of the sofa
Once you get used to sleeping together, you then realise you’ve gotten used to sitting on the sofa in a certain way too; you’ve designated a seat, and sitting on the one you don’t normally starts to feel foreign and weird and you end up saying, “Can I have my side of the sofa back, please.” This is a revelation that I recently came to when it literally happened, we also never use the arm chair because: it’s the arm chair.
5. Talk about baby names even though they’re so far into the future
Why would you ever talk about baby names if they’re not on the agenda, right? Well it’s something that we do all too often and we’ve even agreed on names that we’d have for each gender – however we’re not planning on having children any time soon and we definitely won’t be thinking about making that step any time soon, however it still doesn’t stop us from talking about the names and the inevitable conversation probably saves the argument in the long term but – why? What is the point?