When I went property searching I had many things in mind that I wanted to take into account when finding our new home. I value my mental health the most, I want a space that makes me happy and keeps me feeling light, and many places that I saw when searching through these letting websites were dark, dingy and in some cases, unlivable.
So I feel very blessed that we were able to get the home that we’ve got. It’s perfect for our needs and has everything and more that I ever searched for, but I was constantly aware of my mental health and I wanted to make sure that in a months time I wasn’t having any major regrets.
This meant that I wanted something cosy yet airy. I was setting my expectations a little bit higher than Pedro may have, but it was so important to me that I got it right, I was searching for the two of us being as he couldn’t and I didn’t want to bring him into a home that he hated.
So how was I looking out for my mental health?
There were three key factors that I had in mind when I was searching, they seem pretty basic but they make the biggest impact, really.
I wanted a home that wasn’t dark and had enough light coming in, the property we live in is quite new and these tend to be quite small, but luckily our flat is a great size – it’s actually quite big, which means that we have a lot of light coming in. I wanted to make sure that in a few months time I wasn’t calling up the landlord with window special offers asking for replacements to be done, and I was lucky that the windows are also fairly new, they’re all quite big and they’re also super secure but most importantly: they bring in a lot of light. Our living room throughout the day is always well lit, and our kitchen brings in a lot of light too.
The kitchen is fairly open, there’s a wall that divides it from the living room but no door, instead we have a cute archway. We don’t have anybody at the back of us that could see in, and behind us we have a main road and trees blocking the inside view, this means that we don’t have or need blinds to be put up in there, and it’s a really efficient way of keeping light coming through the flat during the day. I think it’s really nice and it definitely keeps me feeling good when I’m at home, with the darker days drawing in, I want as much light as possible.
Light wasn’t my only concern though, I wanted a lot of space for the both of us. I have a lot of things, way more than Pedro does, so I knew that if we had a small space I’d be occupying a lot of it and it wouldn’t be ours but more mine, so I wanted somewhere that had a great deal of space, enough for us to grow in but especially so that our things can be distributed in a way that one person isn’t living on top of the other.
The amount of space we have means that my things are organised in such a way that I’m not getting in Pedro’s way, he isn’t constantly facing my things and it also means that as he lives with me and time passes by, he’ll obtain things too and have space for them.
Finally, I wanted comfort. I wanted a space that was cosy and easy to live in. My previous bedroom isn’t what I’d call cosy, I had a lot of white and grey going on which I think wasn’t very good for me mentally because of how plain it was – I feel like my blandness had an effect on me so I’ve tried to go with soft, warm tones in the flat, and luckily we have the most beautiful flooring which isn’t too dark or too light, we have the perfect level of cosy going on thanks to it. The walls aren’t quite white, and our feature walls are grey but it’s not the main colour throughout the flat.
I feel like when searching for a new home, it’s okay to be picky and take your time a bit. You want somewhere that you’re going to be comfortable in for the long-term and it’s something that we should be taking seriously, and as much as I wanted to hurry up and find somewhere, move in and be living together, I do think it was fate that we ended up in our flat, we love it so much.