As Skype rings and rings as I await my partner, who currently lives in Portugal, to pick up, I can’t help but muse about how dating now is so different to even fifty years ago, how our Skype call and maintaining our long distance relationship via text and video call would be unheard of only a short period of time ago; but even now the dating scene continues to evolve and change as we observe more niche and catered apps and websites appearing, are we entering the new era of dating?
Even Tinder likes to work based on your area, you get to choose how far out you can meet somebody, websites such as Match.com and all the others also have similar features; I speak about online dating regularly despite having never used a dating app myself, but I didn’t need to, nor did I want to, however I can’t help but admire these technological romance advances. People talk about online dating as if they’re flicking through pages on Google, oh how the times have changed.
There’s tonnes of websites and apps floating around, all of them are very specific to the users needs and wants, I’ve talked about BDSM dating and the likes fairly often over here because it interests me so much to see how much we’ve evolved technology to work to our personal advantages, but let’s say for example you’re looking to Date in Jersey; there’s services and websites created exactly for that, are you in the Jersey Dating scene? Well there’s something for you – are you in the Birmingham dating scene? I’m sure something exists for you too.
It’s easier than ever to narrow down potential partners too, in a similar way to when you go to the supermarket looking to pick out a chocolate bar and you won’t settle until you get the exact brand and flavour that you want. We have a constant desire for companionship and finding love, but as I’ve mentioned before, many people are too busy to go out socializing these days to find somebody, others like me accidentally fell into finding their partner online, which I’m not surprised about with the internet playing such a large role in our daily lives.
If we can do our Asda shop online, book our doctors appointments and request a gym membership online, all within our local area, why can’t we narrow down our potential soul mates to being within a 5 mile radius of us?
There’s also a matter of pickiness, do we have a right to be picky with who we want to date? Absolutely! I think that there is such a thing as a spark and needing chemistry, but I also think our sexual and physical attractions to each other make or break our love lives, otherwise just having similar interests would mean that we’re in love with our best friends too.
I don’t think that apps such as Tinder are dying out, because they’re so easy to use and convenient for hookups, but I do believe we’ll the intentions of finding love on these apps phase out as our more nichey local apps and websites cater to peoples wants slightly more; I find online dating is completely relevant and will only evolve, change and adapt just as everything else does.
But I do think that those among us who are more serious about dating definitely don’t go to Tinder with serious intentions; these apps and their reputations aren’t a selling point, however I do feel like if these apps were to introduce more location based features and catered more to needs rather than first impressions, they’d be more likely to stick around when the time comes, but because of the fact that Tinder relies solely on your first impression, I don’t think it’ll stand the test of time.
I mean, let’s take a look at how many things that we did once upon a time in the world of dating that we all cringe at nowadays, back in the day taking someone out to the movies was the perfect date, these days it’s a major faux pas because how are you supposed to get to know one another? Where’s the sexiness in sitting next to each other loudly munching on popcorn and annoying everyone around you with your attempts at trying to get things a bit more romantic.
Online dating won’t die out, websites that cater specifically to the users needs will stand the test of time, and it’ll be proven. As we all know because I waffle on about it so much, I met my partner on a chat room nearly ten years ago, you can meet somebody online at anytime from anywhere in the world, but do you really want to go through the pain and agony of separating (in the non ending things term of the word) every few months because of a distance?
Wouldn’t you rather see who is nearby, ready for a serious relationship and will get to know you and go on a date with you? Because that’s how I see things headed, and yes we meet people at all times in our lives and you can meet someone anywhere in any place, or on any website, at any time, but having the convenience when you lead a busy life of catering to your wants (and needs) is just making dating that much more simpler. We all love simple.