A lot of my first dates back when I was in the dating scene took place in the Autumn, I was always embarrassed by my clothes because I opt for practicality over style and I would struggle to come up with ideas, but in hindsight I think I was just plainly nervous, and now that I’m in a relationship and have been for close to two years, I often think about things we could do (admittedly over Skype but still).
With Autumn being one of the most eventful times of the year, with Halloween and Christmas both falling nicely around the same time, there’s loads to do because people want to make it a nice time, there’s Halloween events and parties, then there’s the same thing for Christmas too. As a young girl I always fantasised about what it must be like to be taken on an ice rink and skate around, as an adult I couldn’t think of anything worse.
If you’re taking to Tinder or being a bit more adventurous and Googling “Wolverhampton Singles, London Singles, Leeds Singles etc” then you’re also probably wondering what to do if somebody does eventually decide to take you out, the reason I mentioned Halloween and Christmas though, is because the Autumn is probably the most romantic time of the year.
As the nights draw in sooner and it’s bitterly cold outside and you just need someone to snuggle with under a cosy blanket by the fire, you probably have found yourself accepting a date. Where will you go, what will you wear?
Well first of all: your outfit doesn’t matter much, if he likes you for you then that does matter. Second of all: Let’s get you a list.
1. Go Ice Skating
I know I said this would be my nightmare as an adult, but that’s only because I have no balance nor any hand-eye coordination. I actually think that this is a really sweet date idea and it can be a lot of intimate fun if, like me, you can barely keep yourself upright. This is probably where those of you who searched for London or Leeds Dating would do better because where I live, the Ice Rink is not somewhere that great.
2. Go to a fancy dress party
This is also a good escape route too, if you go to a party with people you both know and the date is a flop: your buddies are there! But also, if it goes well there’s something fun about saying your first date was when you were both in fancy dress and not looking your most glam.
3. Bake together
This is another one that I just think is cute, I also think there’s a lot of intimacy in baking with someone and it tells you a lot about a person and their patience. For example, you’d learn that I can’t keep my (washed) fingers out of the bowl because cake mix tastes so good.
4. Go to a Winter Wonderland
I know you typically take kids to these to meet Santa, but the Winter Wonderland in London is always bucket list, and I did go to one as a kid that I can barely remember but I also think that this is a cute setting for a date as well, you can talk and get to know each other whilst enjoying attractions and maybe for the fun of it, you can go and meet Santa too.
5. Go for a cosy candle lit meal
Maybe the more “adult” option of out anything else I’ve already said on the list, but there’s something more romantic about a candle lit dinner in the Autumn, maybe it’s because the pitch black evenings make for an even more intimate setting, but this is one of the few ways where you have no choice but to talk and interact with each other (also for me how a person eats is always a deal breaker).
6. Christmas shop together
Running errands on a first date may not sound very romantic but I actually really like this idea. I normally start Christmas shopping in August so I tend to make some haste with my shopping, but for the little bits and pieces it’s alright to use it as a date, this to me is also how you can determine if you can see yourself doing errands like this with this person in the long run, but it can also be a fun excuse to act like kids and have some fun sifting through the toy aisle.