This weekend, literally everybody I know was watching Stranger Things. As we all binged in glorious union, I was enjoying one relationship especially, seeing it grow and watching the slow pace over the last three seasons gradually unfurl. This is obviously, Joyce and Hopper.
You see, when you think about your parents whether they’re together or not, you can’t actually picture them, or at least I can’t, dating. Probably because we have such a focus on the millennial dating methods such as Tinder taking over the dating scene that we’ve stopped realizing that those older than us, our parents age or even our grandparents ages, also date.
You never actually learn the ages of Joyce and Hopper but based on a quick Google of them, both of them are in their forties and both of them are siiiiingle. Obviously in the eighties there was no such thing as the internet or dating websites just yet, but there was such a thing as dating and taking somebody out. In this day and age, it’s more common for people to engage in one night stands, which isn’t a bad thing at all, we’re more sexually adventurous and there’s no problem with that whatsoever and there are niches such as cougar dating being explored which also gets touched on in the Billy x Mikes mum sub plot.
Based on experience and working with people who are quite a bit older than I am, I’ve noticed a pattern in dating and love for the 40 or even 50+ market, I feel like a lot of people these days successfully meet online and that people are quick to fall hard once they find someone they’re compatible with, and that dating is a lot of fun for people who are in their forties or fifties because they’ve seen the world, they’ve done it all – having dates and that sense of freedom is liberating and fun.
I’ve been thinking a lot about how the dating scene for those older than us seems to be a lot less spoken about though, maybe it’s because everyone is on the same app or maybe it’s because young people dominate the internet so it’s mostly our stories being told, but every person that I know that is within the 40-50 age bracket who found themselves dating have all had a great time and even found their second love, I hear of a lot more success stories from online over 50s dating and I like that, I like to see how the internet is making things easier and more convenient for those that are middle aged or even elderly, because let’s not forget that just because someone is classed as elderly, it does not take away from the fact that they too, deserve love.
But that’s diving into a whole other topic that I might touch on as well in a future post, but I feel like love and online dating isn’t exclusive to young twenty somethings, everyone can get involved and experience love the way that they want to, everyone deserves the chance to go on a date and have a nice time.