I turned TWENTY(!!) over this weekend, I have lived for two decades. During these two decades, I’ve learned quite a lot about myself and about life, so here is a few things that I learned. I was going to do a twenty things I’ve learned at twenty, but to be honest the post would get a bit boring.
I’d first just like to say LOL at the first image I’ve used, it’s from all the way back in 2010 when I was about twelve or thirteen. Lauren took it because we used to play ~models~ a lot. I just thought it was too funny to not include in a things I’ve learned post. One of them is definitely how to pose haha.
Standing up for yourself won’t always end badly
I’m the type of person who gets taken for a mug, a lot. Because I’m the quiet, shy and scared one in the family. I’m not outspoken and I have a hard time standing up for myself. On the rare occasions I have done though, I’ve felt really good afterwards (Bar one time I cried and cringed over it all weekend), but I’ve learned to stand up for myself when it counts. I’m getting better at speaking up and this is definitely an area that needed to be improved.
Procrastination is your enemy
Oh boy, I’m a procrastinator. I can never get started on something unless I’m given a push. I’d lie and say I don’t procrastinate over blog posts, but I do, a lot.
This is something I’m trying to get better at but honestly, I have a lazy brain and I like to over think and over analyse things and end up deciding it’s probably not even a good idea to do that thing in the first place. Procrastination is the enemy.
Politics can end friendships
Ever gotten seriously sick of somebody pushing their political agenda? Same. Especially when it’s anti-women, anti-lgbt and so on and so forth. I’ve ended friendships because I’ve been sick of racist, sexist comments and having constant debates over which political party I chose to vote for this year. Politics can end friendships it seems. I’d say it’s a shame but, not really.
Tomatoes are disgusting, even if you love ketchup
I have ketchup with everything. One year for my birthday Lauren bought me a Heinz Ketchup mug and coaster. It’s also like a running joke in the family. I love ketchup. So, naturally you’d assume I like tomatoes right? WRONG. I tried them once and absolutely hated it. I then forgot to ask for a plain chicken wrap at McDonalds one time and bit right into a tomato. I definitely don’t like them. At all.
Doing what you love will always bring you joy
I spent a lot of time worrying about the opinions of others, and a lot of this time could’ve been spent just doing the things that I was worried about doing. Blogging was one of them, and it was the first thing I did for myself because I wanted to. It’s done nothing but bring me happiness, I complain a lot about it stressing me out and I complain a lot about comparing myself to other bloggers a lot, but those are just minor things in comparison to the level of happiness writing a blog post and getting one finished brings me.
Life is about living in the moment
I spent a lot of time thinking about what-ifs and I spent a lot of time thinking about things I’d change and do differently in the past, but I’ve had to snap myself out of this and I’ve learned that life is about living in the moment and taking things one day at a time. I can only do today what I can do today, and what needs to be done tomorrow can be done tomorrow. That type of thing.
The people who love you will come from anywhere at any time
I’ve met all sorts of people over the years, but the ones who matter to me the most are the ones who I didn’t expect to. They’ve come from all corners of the world, and they’ve been there for me through thick and thin. I’m in no rush to find friends anymore because I have some amazing people and have done for a very long time.
If you haven’t yet tried a cigarette: don’t. You’re not missing out on much, and it’s just frankly disgusting. My dad is a smoker and I hate it so much. Obviously I’ve tried a cigarette, all curious teenagers do. It’s just vile. Doesn’t taste of anything, you get no feeling from it afterwards other than the feeling of self consciousness that you stink of it and they’re so expensive. How do people afford them – they’re almost £10 a pack! Ridiculousness.
Not being a social butterfly is okay
Oh boy, tell thirteen year old me this. I tried so hard to make friends with people that I was stressing over how to open a conversation and what to talk about with people. I’m not a social butterfly, I never have been. I make friends and I’m comfortable with being their friends for the rest of my life if I can, I have no interest in forcing myself to befriend people now because I think relationships with people, friendly or not, should form naturally, forcing it is just going to make it awkward.