It’s the blogosphere. Fads come in and out, and right now being a #GirlBoss is in. I fail to fit into this category of women, I’m quite frankly the furthest thing from a “girl boss”, and to tell you the truth I’m totally fine with it. You should be too.
The phrase #GirlBoss came around with thanks to Nasty Gal’s Sophia Amoruso, she titled her first book #GirlBoss and her Netflix series based on her rise to riches shared the name too. Then the hashtag took off, every blogger girl had a copy of #GirlBoss on their desk or in all of their flatlays, thousands of bloggers had it in their bio on Twitter and publications like Cosmopolitan were writing actual guides on how to be a #GirlBoss. It’s been pretty hard to miss, and even after all of this craze I still see people talking about how it’s important to be a girl boss. Well, I’m breaking that down right now because I actually think it’s utter nonsense.
The criteria for being a girl boss is essentially a woman who has her ish together, works for herself and is a savvy business lady, whether she is a blogger, vlogger, artist, writer etc etc.
I do not have my ish together. Far from actually. I don’t know anyone who stresses over the simple things as much as I do, and when it comes to owning it, I run away from it. I’m a total coward actually, and I don’t really tick any boxes in the #GirlBoss application form.
But I think it’s okay. I work at my pace, take things in my stride if you will. I’m young and learning. I don’t monetize my blog or use any affiliate links. Would I? Definitely. Sorry but, if my blog could be my main source of income, whether I’m qualified to be a girl boss or not, I’d do it.
Which leads me onto my next point, my blog isn’t my main source of income. I don’t run Georgia Anne as a business, so I’m not a bad ass entrepreneur either. Does this make me a failure? No. I write my thoughts out on my blog, I gain a few followers every now and then and I keep my blog statistics at a steady flow. My main source of income may not be my blog, but my main source of income gets me out of the house and socializing with people who aren’t my dog. So in my case, not having Georgia Anne as a business, as my main source of income, works and keeps me a little bit sane.
At one point, I think I definitely wanted to be one of those girls with #GIRLBOSS plastered all over their social media bios, but I also think that is where you can begin to dig yourself a hole. You can become consumed by the idea of being this thing so much so, that you start to lose a grip on what you started out blogging for.
I think it’s okay to be a bit of a nob like me. I’m the type of person who would rather struggle to reach the top shelf and knock everything off it instead of asking for help, that’s not very #GirlBoss is it? I’m also the type of person who gets her sister, six years younger than her, to go and order food for me because I’m that worried about cocking it up. Not very #GirlBoss that. But it’s okay, because well, we’re all only human and not “owning it” is pretty much the norm anyway.
Even though I’ve spoken a lot about why not being a #GirlBoss is okay, I can’t lie and say that I don’t think that being one isn’t okay. I actually think that if you have #GirlBoss in your bio and you genuinely believe that you’re killing the game, that’s awesome! Good for you! You deserve some praise as well, but those of us who, well, frankly aren’t killing the game, we’re doing okay too!
To be honest, I don’t understand why we’ve set a standard that we need to conform to in order to be considered a #GirlBoss. I think that just waking up in the morning, getting a bunch of posts finished or started is an accomplishment too. I also think that if you’re putting a lot of hours and hard work into your blog whether or not it’s your full time job and main source of income, you’re doing a great job, and I also think that if you’re someone who has to take frequent breaks to catch a creative breather, you’re also doing a great job!
Blogging is about having fun, and I think that just having it as a side hobby to keep your mind busy is as okay as taking blogging seriously and using it for money, I don’t think that we should put ourselves down because we don’t fit a few boxes that were literally set to us by a very successful and famous entrepreneur. What works for one person doesn’t work for everyone else. What worked for Sophia probably wouldn’t work for me. What works for the most popular bloggers in the community probably wouldn’t work for me and what I do probably wouldn’t work for you. Not all of us have the same way of doing this, and so if you really want to be a #GirlBoss, if you’re really into the idea – then don’t worry so much about a few rules that we’ve had drilled into our heads over the last few years.
A real #GirlBoss is someone who takes her passion seriously but takes time for herself, a real #GirlBoss doesn’t need a million followers, she just needs to feel okay and proud of her content.
I think that we shouldn’t stress ourselves out over getting “perfect” content and hitting the millions in our following, I’m quite proud of where I’ve gotten my blog to right now. Maybe in six months time I’ll switch it up again, because you don’t always have to do the same thing with your blog, which is the joy of doing it. I’m not a #GirlBoss, I don’t think I’ll ever fit the criteria. I’m taking my blog, my writing, my steady flow of statistics and small following with more pride than anything else I have. I think you should too.