PUSHING MY BOUNDARIES – WHY WAS I SO STUCK BEFORE?

A small while ago I found myself wondering when and why I became so dark. My wardrobe was perfect for funeral wear, my makeup the same, crooked winged liner I’d been trying since I was sixteen, I felt stuck. I was in a fashion crisis. Asking myself, how can I call myself a fashion blogger if my go-to is a pair of black joni jeans from Topshop and a matching, equally as black t-shirt to go with? And don’t get me wrong, I know that this doesn’t make you unfashionable but it definitely made me feel repetitive, boring, and unfit to give advice.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m by no means ever going to be fit to give advice when I really look at it, everybody is different and we all have our own individual tastes, and when you look at the broader perspective: My advice isn’t ever going to be a one size fits all type of deal, so why was I worrying? 

But, anyway, back on topic: I wasn’t happy in what I was wearing and I felt like I wasn’t showing any of my personality on the outside; you’re not obligated to use fashion this way, but I wanted to, so I stopped filtering my websites to black and started shopping in actual shops more, just to get a real feel for things.

I did buy a black t-shirt a few weeks ago and I have worn it a few times but only because it looks good with my bright red trousers (Yes, bright red t-shirts were also bought to match), and I’ve begun finally buying the accessories that oh but that’s too quirky for me I can’t pull it off, only to find I can and do pull them off quite well, actually.

So, here I am a few months later finally ready to talk about how I’m feeling with a brighter, more interesting wardrobe, and also to tell you how you can try to get yourself out of a fashion rut if you’ve been feeling the same way that I have.

Honestly, I’m feeling so much happier. I always knew that fashion and my clothes were a massive affect on my mood, but I never knew how to go about a change, but I’ve noticed that since I’ve been wearing brighter clothes, more patterns and more interesting accessories I’ve felt happier within myself. It’s almost as if the bright on my clothes has light up a light in my brain too, I also feel more confident and willing, I’ve bought clothes I never thought I’d buy because well why not?

What I’m describing here isn’t anything new though, there’s been studies and researches have actually found that women tend to attach their emotions to their clothes, so really this is nothing new, it’s just a personal revelation and me coming to recognise that I too, am doing this.

Fashion is definitely something that I feel needs to be explored, I like the fact that I’ve been through a million and one phases throughout my life to find where I’m comfortable, to find out what I like, but this has also had me reverting back to a comfortable all-black stage when the phase is over; I want to change that about myself.

 

I seem to do this a lot though, realise I’m in some sort of rut somewhere and drastically change it. I recently completely redecorated my bedroom because I felt like all of the grey was dull and boring, and thus making me feel dull and boring. I like my surroundings to match how I feel, and this definitely matches up with how I like to look and be presented.

My 3 Key Tips

Try on your clothes – don’t be too lazy to return if you’ve ordered

Yeah, if you go shopping in the shops, try everything on. Otherwise you’re just buying for the sake of it and you’re not sure if what you’re buying is something you’ll get a lot of wear out of.

If you’re ordering online and something comes, you don’t like it or you don’t feel like it fits right, get up and return it, or exchange.

Buy independent

Find some vintage or independent stores online or even go into charity shops, you can find more interesting pieces this way, and it’s sustainable so why not help the planet whilst shopping for yourself?

I recommend:

Moodboards!

Creating moodboards is the most fun and efficient way to set yourself a direction and decide what it is that you want to do with your style, Pinterest is a good online way of doing it, and I like to use the SAVED feature on Instagram to make a mini, easily accessible moodboard.

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