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BEING RELATABLE: HOW MUCH SHOULD I SHARE?

Technically, this is a topic I’ve touched on before. Technically. But, lately I’ve been thinking about it a lot again. As a blogger, someone who sort of has to be relatable to the reader, how much should I share with you about my life?

I got into thinking about this again when a blogger I like wrote a post talking about masturbation and removing the stigma around the female orgasm, I was thinking about how I could never write a blog post like that and how I could never talk about those things – one because what if my mum saw? And two: because I just don’t know how comfortable I feel talking about it. Which as always, had me overthinking. If you read here a lot then you know just how much I over think things, and as usual, I was overthinking this.

Part of me wants to tell you all of the ins and outs of my life, talk about the special people I talk to, tell you about how I feel on the inside all of the time and I want to be able to maybe even talk about sex. But that is so out of my comfort zone and it would also feel like a lot of my privacy has been stripped away. Also, there’s such a thing as over sharing. What if I over step the line between being relatable and sharing just the right amount, and going into TMI zone and start disturbing a few of you?

So, out of curiosity I started to read other blogs and watch a lot more vlogs, I wanted to see the boundaries that other bloggers have put up around themselves and how much it is that the “popular” bloggers share. Surprisingly, not a lot. Vloggers show you their every day but there are so many jump cuts when you really watch the video, and who is going to show you their argument with their partner in full detail? Yes, vloggers like Helen Anderson have done this, which makes the viewer either uncomfortable or feeling at ease and like they’re just watching their best friend, but Helen is sort of a rare person on YouTube where you actually do feel like what you see is what you get. As for a lot of other bloggers, I had a hard time finding someone like that.

I’m not saying this is a bad thing though and everyone should be like Helen, in fact, I think it works for Helen because of who she is and her personality is just right for this type of viewing, if everyone started showing everything it probably wouldn’t even be as special.

So I started to wonder, what are my boundaries? I realised that I had loads. I went through my blog and compared it to other blogs and noticed that over the past two years, this year has been the one where I’ve opened up a little, but I still don’t think it’s enough.

When I think about relatable bloggers, I also think about those bloggers who are constantly flying all over the world, living it up in only the best hotels and eating in only the best restaurants. I think about this because I understand that these people have huge followings because these are the people that most girls (and guys), want to be. I don’t see myself as somebody you should want to be because I live a very basic, normal, lifestyle. That alone should make me a “relatable” blogger, but if I’m too closed off then no part of me besides that, really is relatable is it?